What is our Pick’n Mix for 2018

Written by Kholoud Saleh. Posted in Events, Parenting

Approachable Parenting ‘Pick and Mix’ choices in parenting teenagers

 

 

Kathleen Roche-Nagi
Teenagers face a myriad of challenges and influences different from our own turbulent years. Social media and various pressures often compound our teens and they react by being labelled as difficult, demanding and unappreciative. We hear about how the parents feel a mix of emotions that their teen is not meeting expectations and not growing into the kind of person they envisioned.

Parenting is challenging at the best of times but the right tools and skills can bring much ease into the home.

During the launch of our ‘5 Pillars of Parenting’ Teen Programme, we asked parents if they could ‘Pick and Mix’ what they could know to raising their teenager.

The replies from parents were impressive as was the knowledge of teenagers who attended our holiday programme last week.

“Learn the skills to really listen and to be able to empathise….”
This is the advice that Kathleen Roche-Nagi, Director of Approachable Parenting imparts in the programme through practical ways to improve the relationship between parents and teenagers. Essentially they are young adults but still require structure and guidance that respects their growing independence. Parents are given practical tools to feel more in control of the home atmosphere whilst operating from a place of love, not frustration.

Here are the thoughts of one parent whilst attending the programme ” I am seeing a happier more engaging change between me and my son. There’s infinite scope for improvement but I love the aspect of compassion that Approachable Parenting teaches us from”.

Son’s feedback “the workshop was different from school. I learnt about feelings and changes to me and how it affects my family. We did lots on communication. I liked the one using the pen; the one person who is talking holds the pen and the other listens, I am going to use this with my parents”.

Our 5 Coping Tips for Muslim Parents in Ramadan

Written by Salma. Posted in Ramadan, Tips

Parenting can be wonderful and rewarding. Now that we are in the blessed month of Ramadan, how can you make the most of it and gain rewards for your parenting as well as your fasting? The below tips will help you make the most of this Ramadan as well as becoming a better parent.

Tip # 1 Approach fasting with a positive mind set and think of the meaning of Ramadan. It is not just fasting from food and drink, it is a time to think positively, be careful of what you say and keep your patience especially with your children. Make the intention to come closer to Allah, to better yourself, maybe to be kinder, caring and more responsive to your children. Motivate yourself to be God-conscious in everything you do and seek forgiveness from Allah.

Tip # 2 Eat well for iftar and suhoor. Do not overeat. Consume foods that are rich in complex carbohydrates which will help release energy slowly during the long hours of fasting. Include protein, fruits or vegetables, fibre-rich foods which get digested slowly such as bran, cereals, whole wheat and plenty of water. Watermelon with fata cheese helps with re-hydration and a half banana at suhoor can help to maintain a healthy body. Try to get in some gentle exercise into your day.

Tip # 3 Make realistic goals. Think of what you want to achieve during this blessed month. Whether it’s reading Quran, praying taraweeh, giving charity to the needy or even smiling more, which is also a charity. Look at your day and choose a good time to do the extra things you may want to do to achieve your goal. Plan your day the night before and decide on which tasks are important to you. Prioritise what tasks you need to achieve first and how much time the other tasks will require. Link your action plan to your prayer times and set reminder alarms on your mobile phone.

Tip # 4 Divide your time into sections, the school run, children nap times, shopping, cooking. Be realistic about the time each takes. Make a chart of your day based on these responsibilities and decide the best time to achieve your Ramadan goal. Be mindful of snippets of time with your children going to and from school, and use the time to talk to them about the rewards of Ramadan. Encourage them to think about how the family can benefit, what each child can contribute to gain rewards by helping a friend, their teacher or a neighbour.

Tip # 5 Keep your patience, be aware of your thoughts, feelings and behaviours. Take control of your emotions and not to get annoyed with your children. Make sure you get sufficient sleep and think about how you can modify your sleep patterns. The days are long and it may not always be easy to get sufficient sleep, especially with young children. Try to catch up on some sleep when they are having their nap, even 15-20 minutes will help to recharge your batteries.

Remember Ramadan is a time of self-discipline, self-restraint and generosity. It’s not just about feeling hungry and thirsty. How can you make your Ramadan better? Take a moment to reflect on what you have achieved so far. It’s not too late for you to make improvements and become a better parent by the end of this Ramadan!

Ramadan kareem and happy parenting!

 

SIEA Talks

Written by Salma. Posted in Courses, Parenting, Uncategorized

Al-salam Alykum,

 

Religion is practical. It deals with issues we face in our every day life and helps us to think what course of action to take and why. Such decisions require a higher level of thought and engagement, and not something which is just assumed.

Without this, we run the risk of our religion becoming irrelevant. Faith is relegated to the mosques and everything else in life is run without it.

Islam was never like that. Our scholars dealt with the most pressing issues of the age and helped address them head on. Faith was both an intellectual and a spiritual pursuit, offering the opportunity to be intellectually stimulated as it sought to answer some of the most difficult questions of the age.

As part of this effort, alhamdulillah, we are pleased to be offering a fantastic course here at the Solihull Islamic Education Academy – SIEA​- named the 5 Pillars of Parenting. The course was developed specifically for the needs of Muslims by specialist counsellors in the area and has been approved by some of the highest bodies in the UK. Having attended some of the classes and discussed the programme at length, the level of rigour and quality of the course is second to none.

I encourage all parents and aspiring parents to sign up and benefit from a truly unique opportunity!

 To sign up, visit bit.ly/SIEAparenting.
Disclaimer: The leaflet shows a picture of Kathleen Roche Nagi- direcetor and developer of the 5Pillars programme-but this is to clarify that she will NOT be delivering these classes. 

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