Spending Quality Time

Written by Kholoud Saleh. Posted in Uncategorized

 

Spending Quality Time with Your Children
The quality time parents spend with their children is not just important for your child’s physical and mental development it forms the basis of their continual emotional and personality development later in life.

Raising physical and emotional healthy children is one of the most crucial and rewarding tasks that parents can do. With the proper intention it is also easy to gain rewards for every action from shopping for food or clothes to reading bedtime stories. To do this effectively is crucial to devote time to each child. One of the biggest mistakes parents do is not spending quality time with their children. Particularly working parents feel they never have enough time to spend with their children and often feel guilty. Sometimes they over compensate for this with buying toys and gifts rather than finding small amounts of time.

Experts emphasise that what is important is quality time with children not the length of time. Instead of length, focus on making the time spent with your child memorable and make them feel special and important. This may take a little planning to make sure there is no distraction and parents need to demonstrate that they themselves are excited to be taking part in the activity.

Quality time can be described as an amount of time with a definite beginning and an ending that contributes to physical, behavioural, emotional, social, academic or spiritual development of the child. This time does not always have to involve an activity, it can be done while doing your daily routine such as when you take your child to and from school or eating dinner together. Spending quality time together strengthens family relationships as parents get to understand their children and learn to listen to them effectively. Planning this time is therefore crucial as each child is different with different interests, needs and requirements. The child’s age, developmental stage and interests should be considered when planning quality time.

Child Centred
In order to spend quality time with your child, it is important that you are in a good place yourself, for example you need to be present physically and mentally when spending the time with them. This means putting away anything that will distract you and devote the time to the child. If you are unconsciously looking at the TV or your phone your child will notice.

Feel Loved
Tell them how much you love them, hug them and have fun. It is possible to write messages or notes for them, even leave messages on their pillow or if your child is younger draw them a love message. Leave a message on the back of the front door for them to see it on their way out in the morning before school. Doing Duaa out loud for your children also demonstrates that they are in your thoughts and you are asking Allah to guide them on their journey through life.

Family Time
Family time is also important when it comes to quality time. This can be even as little as 10 to 15 minutes twice a week doing an activity together. Playing football in the garden or board games together. However, if both parents cannot be present at the same time then you should make sure that you spend quality time with the children at different times.

Right Time
Getting the right time is essential, know when is the best time of the day for you and your child. Some children and adults enjoy evening time, while others prefer morning time. Think about your child and also your routine, what works best to have enjoyed, relaxed and focused time together. What needs to be changed to enable you to have this focused time? Do you need to get up earlier or have the lunch box prepared from the night before. Remember if you fail to plan then you are setting yourself up to fail.

Including the Children
Children enjoy contributing to household activities and feeling included. There are many activities that can be made into fun, such as organising cupboards or toys, making a shopping list, cooking or tidying up. These tasks also enable the child to learn responsibility and can have a positive effect on their self-esteem and confidence. However, it’s essential that you notice the positive things they do and praise them. Try to be aware of your expression and control any negative reactions, if they do make mistakes do not criticise them. Supporting your child to learn about the world and to be able to take responsibility for themselves takes time. One way of doing this is to give them money to pay for small things themselves. This teaches them the importance of taking responsibility or money and its value.

Be in Their World
Develop interesting and creative games together that can be played while dressing, getting ready to go out or on car journeys. Games such as I spy, Pictionary can improve your child’s memory and your child’s development and have fun in the process. Use small snippets of time to teach them new words, concepts and how to be thankful for what they have in life. Playing together is not just fun and entertaining but also educational. You will find that you get to know them better and build quality and lasting relationships. It will also enable them to be happier children and to feel good about themselves. Parents however need to be also more aware of their emotions. A short time spent when you feel good will be more useful than a longer time when you are tense. Try to change something for the better this week that will build your child’s character. Don’t put off until tomorrow what you can do today, put your children as a priority. Smile, have fun and be thankful for what you have, rewards come with good intentions. However, when you make small changes. Don’t forget to reward yourself also as you do deserve it!

GDPR Compliance Statement

Written by Kholoud Saleh. Posted in GDPR Compliance

GDPR Compliance Statement

The EU General Data Protection Regulation (“GDPR”) came into force across the European Union on 25th May 2018 and brought with it the most significant changes to data protection law in two decades. Based on privacy by design and taking a risk-based approach, the GDPR has been designed to meet the requirements of the digital age.

The 21st Century brings with it broader use of technology, new definitions of what constitutes personal data, and a vast increase in cross-border processing. The new Regulation aims to standardize data protection laws and processing across the EU; affording individuals stronger, more consistent rights to access and control their personal information.

Our Commitment

Approachable Parenting are committed to ensuring the security and protection of the personal information that we process, and to provide a compliant and consistent approach to data protection. We have always had a robust and effective data protection program in place which complies with existing law and abides by the data protection principles. However, we recognise our obligations in updating and expanding this program to meet the demands of the GDPR and the Data Protection Act 2018.

Approachable Parenting are dedicated to safeguarding the personal information under our remit and in developing a data protection regime that is effective, fit for purpose and demonstrates an understanding of, and appreciation for the new Regulation. Our preparation and objectives for GDPR compliance have been summarised in this statement and include the development and implementation of new data protection roles, policies, procedures, controls and measures to ensure maximum and ongoing compliance.

How we have prepared for the GDPR

 Approachable Parenting already have a consistent level of data protection and security across our organization, however it was our aim to be fully compliant with the GDPR by 25th May 2018.

To comply with the law, information must be collected and used fairly, stored safely and not disclosed to any other person unlawfully.  To do this, Approachable Parenting must follow the eight data protection principles in the Data Protection Act 2018, which are summarised below:

  1. Personal data must be obtained and processed fairly and lawfully
  2. Data can only be collected and used for specific purposes
  3. Data must be adequate, relevant and not excessive
  4. Data must be accurate and up to date
  5. Data must not be held longer than necessary
  6. Data subjects’ rights must be respected
  7. Data must be kept safe from unauthorised access, accidental loss or damage
  8. Special rules apply to transfer abroad

Note: ‘personal data’ is information about identifiable, living individuals held on computer or in most manual filing systems. Approachable Parenting workers, board members and volunteers who process or use any personal information in the course of their duties must ensure that these principles are followed at all times. In order to ensure that this happens, Approachable Parenting has drawn up the following policy.  There are two main groups to accommodate within the policy:

  1. Members/clients
  2. Workers/board members/volunteers

Note: the data controller Approachable Parenting as a body is the data controller under the act, and is ultimately responsible or the policy’s implementation. Personal data relating to members/clients

Purposes:

Approachable Parenting obtains personal data (such as names, addresses, phone numbers, email addresses) from members/clients.  This data is obtained, stored and processed solely to assist staff and volunteers in the efficient running of the service requested by the clients/members.  Personal details supplied by the clients/members are only used to send them material that is considered potentially useful.

Consent:

During initial contact with the client/member it will be explained how their personal information will be used.  Written consent is not requested as it is assumed that consent has been granted when a person freely giving their own details.

What is our Pick’n Mix for 2018

Written by Kholoud Saleh. Posted in Events, Parenting

Approachable Parenting ‘Pick and Mix’ choices in parenting teenagers

 

 

Kathleen Roche-Nagi
Teenagers face a myriad of challenges and influences different from our own turbulent years. Social media and various pressures often compound our teens and they react by being labelled as difficult, demanding and unappreciative. We hear about how the parents feel a mix of emotions that their teen is not meeting expectations and not growing into the kind of person they envisioned.

Parenting is challenging at the best of times but the right tools and skills can bring much ease into the home.

During the launch of our ‘5 Pillars of Parenting’ Teen Programme, we asked parents if they could ‘Pick and Mix’ what they could know to raising their teenager.

The replies from parents were impressive as was the knowledge of teenagers who attended our holiday programme last week.

“Learn the skills to really listen and to be able to empathise….”
This is the advice that Kathleen Roche-Nagi, Director of Approachable Parenting imparts in the programme through practical ways to improve the relationship between parents and teenagers. Essentially they are young adults but still require structure and guidance that respects their growing independence. Parents are given practical tools to feel more in control of the home atmosphere whilst operating from a place of love, not frustration.

Here are the thoughts of one parent whilst attending the programme ” I am seeing a happier more engaging change between me and my son. There’s infinite scope for improvement but I love the aspect of compassion that Approachable Parenting teaches us from”.

Son’s feedback “the workshop was different from school. I learnt about feelings and changes to me and how it affects my family. We did lots on communication. I liked the one using the pen; the one person who is talking holds the pen and the other listens, I am going to use this with my parents”.

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